BDSM Submissive Punishments: Guide To Punishing Your Sub Like A Pro BDSM Dom (Includes Submissive Training)

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Another third were genuinely curious so we talked through what being a sub meant to me. Some people found it really educating. It actually made me feel better about men, less afraid of engaging with them.’ I will ask you if you have any preferences regarding what color I paint my nails before I paint them. Daily Tasks: What matters most is that I don’t like it, otherwise it will have no lasting impact. And that’s the point of correction, isn’t it? That it have an impression and that it shape future behavior in a positive way. Classical conditioning is a type of behaviourism that falls within this area, and acts an automatic response to prior learning – i.e. the spanking can be linked to something you’ve experienced in the past. Remember that every day, in every situation, you have the choice to obey or not to obey, to honour or not to honour. Choosing the latter will only keep your situation as it already is, or possibly even make it worse. The former choice, on the other hand, has the possibility of being the salvation of your relationship. However, irregardless circumstance, irregardless of feelings, we must remember that it is our job as Christian wives to obey and obey, and then obey some more.

Condition 2. In the event that you have made a request for me to wear something that is not appropriate for work, I will make arrangements to wear one work-appropriate outfit during the day and change into the requested outfit during the evening. The term fetish is often used interchangeably with kink to refer to any sexual activity that falls outside the mainstream appetite. But fetish is actually a subset of kinky sex, and technically refers to the fixation of an inanimate object that’s not typically sexual such as body parts - notably feet! However, even if he does not choose to do this, please still surrender in your heart to him... let is be your labour of love to him for the sake of God. God, who will see what is done in secret, will reward you someday in Heaven. If you do not like what you see here, I am sorry - and you are certainly free to go. If you have an axe to grind with LDD, create your own blog and let the world know. Spamming this or any similar blog does you no good. It wastes your time and ours.

HOH tries to read it every day, if not every other day, and we *talk* A LOT about it. If I've felt I disagree about a punishment I've received, or not punished for something I should've been punished for...whatever...we discuss it, and as long as I'm respectful, he really listens and we try to come to an agreement.

Before delving into the origins of subs’ pleasure from pain, let’s correct some common misconceptions: I could really use your insight on the concept of maintenance spanking. In the last week or so, my husband has wanted to explore having a female-led relationship. So while he has always done the cooking, and is a great co-parent two our two children, he's now taking on the majority of the rest of the housework. I'm all in favor of this, as he hasn't always done half of the housework, and our new arrangement has allowed me to be a more present parent and pursue more creative pursuits. In addition to parenting, I am now managing our finances, which I don't mind doing. He has recently wanted to try " maintenance spanking" as a way to reinforce his submission. We've done spanking as a part of sex for awhile, both with my hand and with a flogger, and we enjoy other Dom/sub activities like pegging. But I honestly don't "get" the spanking thing apart from sex. When should it happen? When is it supposed to end? Why are we doing this? We tried last night and decided on a certain number of lashes. He asked afterward if I felt powerful and the answer was NO. I didn't get anything from this and I don't understand it. The whole thing felt very ceremonial and I am not sure what to do with that level of formality. Anything I can do to get in this headspace? Am I thinking about this wrong?

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I am a Christian woman and I feel "exactly" the same as you. I want so much in my heart to be as God and my Husband wants. As one of Sir's favorite ways to have me, positioning for rear entry is very important. He prefers a similar position to that of spanking, with more of a reverse lean so as to better accommodate His thrusts. Smut Drop is a weekly podcast with host Miranda Kane from Metro.co.uk, touching on sex, dating and relationships.

Very helpful for overactive thinkers, like me. I also enjoy admiring my stripes and bruises the next day, if I’ve been spanked very hard (perhaps with a hairbrush or a paddle). Every day, when I wake up I would like an message telling me what you are going to wear that day and the name placement. Undergarments are to be included. During the early courtship, the Dominant will try and build the submissive’s confidence. As a submissive myself, this is crucial to helping me feel comfortable enough to test my limits. The Dominant can do things like ask for pictures in various stages of dress; starting from fully clothed and then gradually less. Reminding them that they are a beautiful, precious treasure to them. They can reassure them that they aren’t leaving. They will remind the submissive that they are safe and they cared for. Establish boundaries: informed consent is the most important aspect of exploring kinky sex, so lay the ground rules before you get started. Communication is key, so talk through with your partner(s) about what you are and aren’t expecting, and where your limits are.Now that I am fully mindful of thus, it's time to actually do it. As a priest once said, "There is no 'try.' There is only 'do.'"

And we want to hear from you, too! As part of our podcast we’ll be sharing listeners’ experiences, thoughts and questions on a different theme every week. There are many physical types of punishments and those are the ones we typically think of. And while impact play can be a part of your BDSM relationship, the Dominant shouldn’t push the submissive with corporal punishments that push them beyond their limits. Safe words can be used during punishment if they are needed. The Dominant shouldn’t use punishment in moments of anger and they should remain in control.Power play exists in every relationship even if you aren't engaging in kinky sex, but it can really ramp things up in the bedroom. In BDSM circles power play refers to the practice of dominance and submission and requires advanced levels of communication, trust and intimacy to succeed, so think of it as the ultimate sex game starting in the mind. A good place to start is the good old fashioned servant and master routine, so surrender completely to your lover (or vice versa) and pander to their every whim for an incredibly intimate, powerful and sexy time. 24. Fetish